Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Engaging the Mystery of Friendship Between Men and Women
Married to my best friend, Sheila for 33 years. I have been researching male-female friendship for the last decade. Romantic intimacy and friendship intimacy are not rival intimacies. I continue to enjoy healthy longstanding intimate friendships with women my wife knows, loves, and trusts deeply. I'm a respected leader in my church. I've hosted national Sacred Friendship Gatherings in recent years where leaders, pastors, therapists, and friends gathered to engage this complex and sacred relationship devoted to explore our quest for healthy friendships.
Jennifer O. and I are celebrating 13 years of deep friendship in 2015. Friendship between the sexes is a twenty-first century relationship where we can stand on our own two feet in the close presence of each other. I wanted to write a book that was an eye-opening witness to intimate friendships between men and women.
Read what others are saying about this ground-breaking book:
"Your book is amazing, thoughtful, eloquent and full of love and appreciation for the possibilities of deep relationships. I know your topic is controversial, and I suspect some people may reject your book without reading it, but I am grateful to you for writing it."
Andrew Himes, author, The Sword of the Lord
"Dan Brennan breathes a breath of fresh air into cross-gender relationships in his book, Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions. His book is one of the few books I have read that deals realistically and appropriately with Christian relationships." Debra Hirsch, Redeeming Sex
"Unfortunately, little beyond the cloistered walls of monasticism, and much less since the Reformation, has been written about the rich possibilities (not to mention wise counsel) of intergender friendships. One notable exception is Dan Brennan, Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions: Engaging the Mystery of Friendship Between Men and Women. While directed more toward the nature of adult friendships, Brennan’s work is undoubtedly a valuable asset as new directions are sought.”
Dan Brennan's ground-breaking book "Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions" courageously attacks the oldest and most difficult wall dividing the Christian church--the wall between male and female."
Meredith Efken, author, Lucky Baby
"If that word "Delight" trips you up, do NOT read one of the strongest sections in Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions on that D-word!"
Dave Wainscott, Pastor, Third Day Fresno
"I've underlined and written notes on nearly every page in this book. I wrote a three part series on my blog inspired by this book; it really is a must read!
This book has forced me to consider the beauty of cross-sex friendship, to address feelings of shame in my own life, and to desire to push back against the Evangelical church teachings I experienced during my formative years."
"Sacred Unions Sacred Passions is the most thought provoking book currently available on the mysteries and opportunities of cross gender friendships.
Dan Brennan courageously exposes the crucial influence Sigmund Freud's ideas have had on the church and explores Jesus' alternate way of thinking about sex and male, female friendships. Read it with a bible in your hand. You'll be amazed at what you never noticed"
Dr Jim Henderson, The Resignation of Eve: What If Adams Rib is No Longer Willing to Be The Church's Backbone
"We cannot measure our progress against patriarchy simply by a woman president, or a female pastor. Not until the sexes can look into each other's faces and see an ally, not a competitor, a friend, not a seductress, a companion, not a breadwinner will we know we've reached a meaningful peace. Dan Brennan is peerless in his passion and scholarship toward trail-blazing a way for men and women to be life-long friends. Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions builds a provocative call for creativity in ending the gender war through love (not simply the romantic kind) between men and women. For friendships beyond what Harry and Sally offered, take Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions as your compass; Dan Brennan as your guide."
Jonalyn Fincher, author, Ruby Slippers
"It is time for the church to begin a serious conversation about intimacy, friendship and human sexuality. Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions ought to be read and talked about by Christians who care about truth and love."
John Armstrong, author, Your Church is Too Small
"Dan Brennan's work on friendship is intensely personal, highly researched, and compassionately orthodox. There are few books that have had a greater impact on my life and marriage."
Forrest Lee Horn
"My friend Dan Brennan has taken the topic of cross-gender friendship seriously. Engaged in these relationships on a personal level, he also writes extensively about it in his book, Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions and does whatever he can to advocate for people to consider exploring the idea and hopefully the practice of cross-gender friendships as part of a deepened spiritual journey."
Kathy Escobar, Co-Pastor of The Refuge Church, author, Down We Go: Living into the Wild Ways of Jesus
"Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions is a provocative book about why men and women, both married and single, need more cross gender friendships, not less. I am convinced that healthy cross-gender friendships can do much to strengthen marriages. I have given away more copies of this than any other book this year. Even if you are skeptical about the concept I challenge you to read the book and give Brennan the chance to make the case."
"It is not every day that a book is both lucid and creative, intellectually stimulating and imminently practical, exploring an area that has been not been written about much and yet is utterly important to all of us. Dan Brennan is to be commended for diving into this subject, affirming God's good gift of friendship, especially those friendships that develop between men and women."
Byron Borger, Owner of Hearts and Minds Bookstore
"Pick this book up... its worth it to help begin to change the world to have a more positive view of love, relationships and sexuality!"
Pastor Matt Gillard, Edmonton Canada
"This book is a stick of dynamite ready to destroy all our sacred cows. Not for the faint of heart. But I absolutely loved it. Dan ushers us into a mature and Biblical view of male and female friendship, unbound from traditions and nonBiblical rules, and frees us to truly be sisters and brothers with... intimate love in the Lord."